By Kelly Hamby
When you feel that you have failed in some way or haven’t met your goals how does it make you react? Are you the type to hang back and accept failure, or feel worse and do nothing? Many people would react that way at least for a while until they are able to recover their self-confidence.
Then their is the warrior or wild side of us that would get mad and fight harder to overcome whatever it is. Maybe with swearing or kicking something while we overcome whatever it is with a vengeance. In either case it is probably a good idea to kick back for minute or more then look what happened and why things happened the way they did. At least 40 % of the time it is nothing we did or had control over – it Is ‘just the way it is’.
So then we must go on to accept that (for a minute) in order to get past our fits, our angry temper, or the situation it’s self. Here are a few things to remember if you or when you find your self in this situation. Feeling bad, like a loser, or blaming yourself (even if you did it) does absolutely nothing to help. It doesn’t change anything and it definitely doesn’t help you get your life spinning back in a positive direction. In fact it has the opposite effect of sending you further back down.
Most things I believe have the equal opportunity for good and for bad to exist, maybe not for you but it is there. Consider an accident the driver has a job, or how about a fight. One person loses the other wins. Good and bad. It is up to each of us to notice and recognize the good even more so when it is not there for us.
It is important to analyze exactly what happened, where when and why. This is only so that you may formulate a better plan next time that has all the good points you had going and terminates the mistakes if possible. Believe it or not this can work for everything from your home business, your day job, your family relationships, and even to your health.
There is a lot of be said about ‘turning over a new leaf’ no matter what the frame of reference. There will more than likely always be a tomorrow and that represents an opportunity to start over and do better. You might consider it a silly analogy but visualize when you get a cut or break a bone how well we heal when taken care of the right way vs the wrong way and room for infection.Our bad thoughts are like a germ that wants to spread all over.
So bottom line is ‘never say die’ and never give up. Never. Use your common sense or logic to get your head straight and then do something that involves making a better decision. You would be surprised how the result is better too. By the same token if you keep making the same mistake, you will keep having the wrong result. You just need to remember that we get through the bad so that we can feel the good.
If your day is going bad, start it over. There is nothing that can make us have negative situations more than ourselves. We have the power to live past the bs and enjoy ourselves much more than we do. If we learned from our situations then help teach others they can too.
Don’t let bad moments grow in your head or life, like the germs in a cut that want to spread all over.Take care of them the right way. It starts with us and that is the time to keep on pushing. It is amazing the power we withhold from ourselves. For real look in yourself..